Thursday, July 21, 2011

One Year as a Family

Dear Kenenisa,

A year ago we became a family ... it has been a year of incredible change for all of us. I often think to myself what your life was like when you were still with your birth family ... the people you lived with, the countryside you explored, the experiences you had in your first 3 1/2 years that we may never know of or understand.

You have learned so many things in the past 12 months ... too many to list ... but a few worth mentioning are: how to speak English, how to swim, ride a bike, play with neighbors, eat new foods. Your survival skills and ability to adapt are truly amazing.

You are a strong, expressive, smart, energetic, fearless boy.

The rest of us have also been learning a great deal this year. We are all learning to be more patient, more compassionate, and understanding. Your dad and are trying to learn how to be more effective as parents ... learning new techniques and new skills so that we can build meaningful connections with you.

On this one year anniversary, what I want you to know more than anything is that your are safe ... that you can trust us ... that we love you - not because of what you do ... that our love is unconditional. I know that it is not your fault that you are still struggling ... but we are committed to helping you heal ... that when all those broken connections are restored ... you will see ...

You have been given the gift of an amazing family ... that we will always be yours and you will always be ours.

We are waiting ... longingly ... for the day when you will know in your heart how much love is waiting for you.

With love in my heart,



  1. Wow. This is beautiful and I know how truthful it is. He will understand and treasure reading and knowing this someday!

  2. Tears..running down my your you and how far you have come in this inspire me.

  3. Tears here too. You really are nothing short of amazing. To watch you pour your love into your son with very little in return, has been something that makes me stand in awe. Thank you for sharing from your heart. I am and will continue to pray for a miracle in Kenen's heart. I love you and your family so much. Hang on.

  4. Amazing... Praying for all of you!


  5. WOW! I love and respect you. I know he will come to understand, appreciate and love back. It is only a matter of time. I pray for all of you, regularly.

  6. What a wonderful loving letter. I know that day will come for you and your family because you all will still be there for him on that day! Selfishly, I am thankful that you will have lots of advice for us in building that trust with Macy. She also has gone through a lot in her short 4 years in orphanages. You are all in our prayers! Much love, Lisa and John